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Wednesday, 21 January 2009

What is your favorite dish to cook? How do you make it?

I really like making spaghetti from scratch. Tomatoe paste, tomato sauce, parsley, cilantro, Italian sausage, sauteed onions, muchrooms and garlic, oh the deliciousness!

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Saturday, 17 January 2009

The Portraits of Attraction

The topic of image came up this evening, specifically the image women they wish the men in their lives to hold in terms of them. According to Dr. Paul Dobransky there are three types of attraction: Sexual, Emotional, and Intellectual. These Images of Attraction have varying degrees of all three in them, of course, but the images being discussed are not a type of attraction, but picture portrayed by attraction methods. Two Different topics, now back onto mine.
Here are the major images women I've spoken with try to achieve and a little about each.
Worshipped - This is a woman who wants to be idolized to the fullest extent, infallible and above any other female on earth.
Unattainable - She thrives on the gazes from afar, doesn't particularly like to have her space invaded, strings attached, or long term "anything". She might lower herself to say hello out of compassion for you, you might even get lucky once or twice, but ultimately she's a love 'em and leave 'em kind of girl.
Too-Good-For-You - Pretty self explanatory, this obnoxious brat, woman, or what-have-you comes in all ages, shapes and sizes. She doesn't value herself, so she plays herself up to everyone so they "can't find out" she's "not worth it".
Captivating - Innocent and perhaps naive, this woman wants to be seen as irresistible in her own right, for who and what she is, not what make up and clothes can dress her up as. An intellectual woman of discretion and fervor. Not necessarily an ideal in any way, merely herself and desired as such.
Cherishable - What every woman's inner little girl secretly craves, whether she knows it or not. A gentle touch, a shimmer of chivalry, and a protective knight to keep her safe and love her unconditionally no matter what trials the future holds.
Alluring - This woman is the dirty side of Captivating: often flaunts her sexuality a small amount (i.e. tries just a bit too hard), sees clothes and makeup as tools to play the part. She wants to drive men wild but hold enough dignity that her admirers keep their distance a suffice amount of time to ensure they've admired the entire package before unwrapping it.
Sex Goddess - She may not dress trashy or talk dirty 24/7, but this woman is just a tad over borderline nympho and doesn't particularly see her as long as you respect her, give her what she needs, and show up whenever she wants you to. Domimatrix anyone?
The next installment of this will be discussing the tells you might spot in order to determine which image is currently being cycled through (yes, they change) and why that particular image may be surfacing.
Movie Night
A good cuddle in front of a screen pulsing with gore, horror, sex or mythological documentaries is all well and good, but for those looking to make get something a little more personal up onto the screen, here are a few pointers.
1. If your woman isn’t against the idea, but isn’t setting up the lights for the shoot, try surprising her with a set all ready to shoot. Get her warmed up to you before worrying about warming her up to the idea; she’ll be more likely to say yes that way. If you set the stage, she won’t care so much that she’s already playing the part. A video camera with a remote control will be less intrusive.
2. Lighting is always a necessity for good photography. Candle light is best on a woman’s skin but does not provide enough of it to do any good for the camera. You can get amber lights for your lamps or even try shading the lights you already have with shears to give the scene a little extra color.
3. Keep in mind that a sense of humor is essential to a healthy sex life, especially when viewing you and your woman in the act. Not every one is a porn star, and while it’s fine to laugh at yourself do not under any circumstances laugh at her. A chuckle at a comment she makes first might be fine, but you’re on thin ice as she’s probably already worried about how she looks on tape.
4. Assuming you keep the tape and do not destroy it immediately under her command, don’t show it to the boys, no matter how much alcohol is involved. Keep it locked up safe, away from friends, family and children. If you have, say a gun safe or the like, that would be a good choice.
Starting Over

No, this is not some sappy piece about recovering from a bad relationship. This is about reinventing the thrill of initial contact.
Whether it’s meeting up at a bar, dancing and drinking the night away only to end u p back at your place or running into each other at the mall and going for a romp in the car, it feeds the fantasy of throwing caution to the wind to randomly hook up with a good shag.
One thing to keep in mind; the fact that you two are not actually strangers having random sex is not a draw back at all. In fact, because of the history the relationship has established between you two, it can open up for even more outrageous risk taking. Just don’t get caught.
Moody Moves

Every once in a while, it’s perfectly admirable to leave the every day at the front door with your shoes and coat to change the pace. Whether it’s putting notes around the house to lead your woman to you, music and candles, Champaign in the bath tub or what, creating a different atmosphere for the woman who puts up with you will always be showed the proper appreciation.
Every woman, even the most raging of bitches, wants to feel just a tad bit cherished and appreciated. Any respectable woman who is in a relationship with you obviously enjoys being with you, otherwise she’d leave. So just to do something different, whether for her birthday, a holiday, an anniversary or just as a "thank you for choosing me" sort of message, treat her like it’s your last day together.
Those little things you say to her in your head to keep from sounding like a silly romantic idiot, try saying one or two of them to her or write them down if you’re nervous about verbalizing them.
If you don’t trust your own eloquence, borrow some from a poet or other writer. Just be sure to include how another man’s words made you think of her, otherwise it might lose some of its effect.
On the other hand, if she dose something out of the ordinary for you, don’t turn the lights on, shut the music off and read the mail while she’s all dolled up for a striptease. Turning on the lights is the same as turning off your woman in that instance. If you have any hope of getting laid within the next week, play along.